Got a compliment?
How do you react to compliments and people saying thank you? Do you brush them off, telling people: “No biggie.”? Does it make you feel good to resist the draw of compliments?
That’s too bad.
Because you’re not only denying yourself some pleasure. In fact, you are pushing away good things in your life. You’re refusing to receive.
Let me explain: Imagine for a moment that the universe is a nice place, giving you what you want. And it takes your focus, thoughts and feelings as indication of what you want in your life. If you like something, you get more of it. If you moan the lack of something, you get more lack. If you dream of getting rich in the future, you’ll never get there. Tricky, isn’t it?
Same when you brush off thanks. You are doing no less than reduce your inner value of yourself and what you do. You’re telling the universe: Hey, what I do matters not. I don’t even value it myself. Remember “No biggie.”? You are literally making yourself small.
Now take a look at how you react to compliments or gratitude. Do you still want to push it away or brush it of? Do you still want to belittle your actions when you help a fellow human being and receive thanks?
When you start to allow in compliments and gratitude, when you allow yourself to receive them – then you’re opening yourself up to more gifts from the universe.
But, I hear you say, compliments just swell your head.
They might, if you let them feed your ego. However, if you open your heart, let them in like the gifts that they are, and if you answer them in a heartfelt and grateful way, compliments and thanks will make the world a better place. That’s what I firmly believe.
And if it still feels awful to accept compliments rather than brushing them off, if you’re scared of opening your heart, well, let’s go and tap a couple of rounds.
KP: Even though I have a hard time accepting compliments, I’ve learned to brush them off, I’m okay the way I am and I’m open to the possibility that compliments are actually okay.
Even though I learned that compliments just make my head swell, I’m okay the way I am and I’m open to the possibility that maybe they are meant to be taken into the heart and not the head.
Even though I compliments make me blush and I hate that, and that’s why I learned to brush the off, I’m okay the way I am and I’m open to the possibility that I can learn to accept compliments with grace and gratitude.
IE: Compliments are icky!
OE: I never know what to do with them.
UE: So I learned to brush them off.
UN: Best thing to do with compliments.
CP: Lest they make my head swell!
CB: Compliments are bad!
UA: They make me blush!
AW: Best thing to do is to brush them off.
Take a deep breath!
IE: But what if I just misunderstood something?
OE: What if I’m meant to take them into my heart?
UE: What if they are actually meant to make me feel good and not bad?
UN: What if I could learn to enjoy compliments – and even give them?
CP: I never thought about them this way.
CB: But maybe I just misunderstood the concept of compliments.
UA: Maybe they really are good things.
AW: And maybe I can learn to accept them gracefully …
Take a deep breath!
IE: It would be nice to be able to deal well with compliments.
OE: But I learned to brush them off.
UE: I learned to say: “No biggie.”
UN: Because letting them in feels dangerous.
CP: They could make me blush or even cry.
CB: But they also could make me feel good.
UA: Hmm. I never thought compliments could make me feel good.
AW: But it’s something to consider.
Take a deep breath!
IE: I choose to start an experiment.
OE: I choose to try out dealing with compliments differently.
UE: I choose to allow them into my heart.
UN: I choose to savor them.
CP: And I choose to answer gracefully to them.
CB: This feels better than brushing them off, and hurting the person offering them.
UA: I choose to receive compliments and thanks as gifts.
AW: And that feels exciting!
Take a deep breath!
I readily admit that it took me time and practice to change my reactions to compliments. Nowadays, I consciously allow them into my heart and I thank the giver. And when I do something and receive thanks – I choose answers that appreciate everyone involved.
And if you feel especially brave, experiment with handing out compliments. Tell someone they are wearing great clothes. Thank people for doing nice things for you. And mean it.
You will see that this will change your life in small but meaningful ways. It really is worth it.
So, what compliment did you receive today? And what compliment did you gift someone?
Image source. F. Möbius
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