Money Mindset – Introduction

Money

Money

After much thought, I’m reviving this blog, somewhat. Once a month, there will be a longish EFT post, among those occasional stream-of-consciousness inspirational thoughts with the pictures I take.

And this year those posts will be about money and all the many blocks around this topic. Because money is pretty much central to our lives, if we’re honest.

Money is behind having a home, having food, and enjoying life. And it is why we leave our homes and families to go to work. Or why we hustle to build our businesses. Or why we do things we don’t enjoy in exchange for money.

Even deeper, our relationship with money and our blocks and limiting beliefs about it determine how hard it is to bring it into our lives.

So once a month, I’m going to take a deep look at money here.

At the blocks we have about it. At the beliefs we carry about it. At the limits we set ourselves about it. At the family system dynamics that influence us. At all those things going on in the dark, deep zone of subconscious beliefs, and hidden no-nos.

Why now?

Well, I’ve been thinking about the direction of this blog and how it can be useful for those of you who still find it and me. And there are more of you than I expected. I was letting you all down. That was a sobering thought. Continue reading

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Strength and Cooperation

This picture makes me think of strength.

Because that tree needs a lot of strength to grow like that all on its own. No neighbors, no friends, just itself and the will to grow tall.

To be honest, I believe we should look for friends and support, and that going it all alone isn’t really a virtue. Now that tree didn’t really have a choice. But we do. Maybe it is a strength in humans to cooperate and build something together.

Just a thought… what do you think?

Strength

Strength

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Morning Light

When you get up in the morning, you simply don’t know what will happen. And just as in the picture below, only certain aspects of the coming day will be easy to identify, while the rest is still hidden in the delicious fog of morning.

Ease into the day, let the fog lift gently and allow what is going to happen. Be open to expecting good things, solutions and – if possible – love. You can tap a  little to open your heart and release any fear if necessary.

And your day will become beautiful.

Village in the morning light

Village in the morning light.

(This is a small village near where I grew up, in the mild morning light of late December. )

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My blog has moved.

For my wonderful, hopeful visitors: My blog has moved to a new place.

While I still do EFT for many, many things, and still work with clients on all of their issues (unless it moves into the realm of therapy, which I am not allowed to do “long-distance”), I have found a new focus for my blogging.

As you probably know by now, I’m also a writer of fiction, and have published quite a few books. In fact, I’m working on several right now.

That means I’m intimately familiar with the life and woes of a writer. Which in turn means I can serve writers very well – in all matters of mindset, limiting beliefs and blocks.

Yet while my new blog focuses on the mindset of writers, you’ll find many interesting topics, even if you’re not a full-blooded writer, or even if you don’t care about writing at all. Because there is some overlap between writers and the rest of the society, after all.

So if you’re still interested in EFT and how to tap for stuff, and if you enjoyed my blogging, come on over to:

Writers’ Dream Coach

That’s where I “live” now, and yes, there is a weekly newsletter going out as well.

See you there!

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The Power of Mindset

I love...

I love …

This is a true story.

Ten days ago, I decided to radically shift my mindset about my books. (I’m writing fiction under a pen name.)

You see, I self-published my first book early in 2013. By now, I have three books out, and one on preorder that’ll be fully published soon. They are beautiful books, thanks to the people who create the graphics for it, and I also think they tell good stories.

But sales were frustrating.

It’s a marketing problem, my coach would say. It’s also a visibility problem – it’s not easy to have a book show up among the hundreds of thousands of genre books on Amazon.

So I resigned myself to minimal sales, checking the sales reports once in a while, and trying not to wince. Sound familiar?

I get coaching sessions for myself. (Every coach should.) And in one of those sessions, the advice that came through was: Just love your books. Forget about sales. Forget about frustration. LOVE your books.

So I gave them a prominent place in my bedroom. I went to sleep thinking loving thoughts and feeling proud of my books. During the day, I would imagine holding and hugging them. It was an experiment, but also something that felt right. Plus I had nothing to lose.

The very next day, I found a new review.

The day after, a sale. The first since Christmas. I kept sending love.

Another sale. Another review. More sales.

These last ten days have been better than the last three months together.

Of course, I have moments of doubt creep in. What if this is just a fluke? What if I’m imagining things? What if it’s just coincidence? And it’s not easy to keep that love flowing when doubt raises its ugly head.

Even so, I’m doing my best to stay in that feeling of love. I use mantras that help. And of course, I use tapping.

And ultimately, it feels much nicer to love my books unconditionally, than to be constantly frustrated about them. It makes my life better – and that alone is worth it.

The woo-woo part of the whole thing goes like this: It makes a fundamental difference whether I send out the energy of frustration or the energy of love, in general and in particular.

The energy of frustration simply gets me more of that. No sales.

The energy of love brings in love. Reader love, reviewer love, maybe even fan love.

Which is why it’s a good idea to choose love, whenever possible. A mindset of love is so crucial to everything we do, be it writing, coaching, cooking or running a business. It changes the whole ball game. It changes lives.

Here’s a bit of tapping to help you shift into a loving mindset.

Even though it feels totally weird to love something that’s frustrating me, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose love over frustration.

Even though I don’t believe all this woo-woo stuff about energy and the universe, I’m okay the way I am, and I’m ready for an experiment.

Even though it feels so natural to be frustrated, and so weird to try and feel love instead, I’m okay the way I am, and I’m choosing to try this out.

As usual, you can shift those sentences around so they really fit you.

Your Turn:
What part of your life could profit from a mindset change? How will you express love for it? Please write a comment, and if possible, report back on the changes.

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What do YOU need?

Question

I have a question.

Today, I don’t  have another tapping blog post for you.

Instead, I’m going to ask a huge favor from you.

Because I love you as my reader and care about you, and want to write about topics that really help you. Topics that can make a difference in your life. I want to help you, not an imaginary reader.

So far, I’ve been following my inspiration and my imagination, and very often my own experiences.

But that’s not you.

And I want to be here for you. You matter.

That’s why I’m asking you:

What topics are weighing heavy on your heart?
What worries make you lose sleep at night?
Where would you want to feel relief most?

Because tapping can do that.

I can do that for you. If I know what you need.

Please write a comment.

And I’ll write a blog post just for you.

Deal?

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PS: I’m here to serve you. If you want personal support, click HERE and send me an email. We’ll talk and figure out how I can support you best.

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How Limiting Beliefs Hurt your Bottom Line

Running against a wall

Running against a wall.

Did you know that beliefs you probably learned as kid can influence your bottom line?

No matter if you’re an entrepreneur or not – what you believe deep inside determines your way of life, including how much money you have.

These limiting beliefs are not inherently bad. We created them as kids to keep us safe in this world. We learned them from our parents, our larger family and our friends. They became a part of us.

They are our safety walls.

However, as we created them as kids, they are most likely outdated now that we are adults. That’s where the “limiting” comes in. The safety walls have become too tight.

These walls show up as mental blocks. As fears. Or as stories we tell ourselves about what we can do or not. As the voices in our heads telling us who we should be.

I’m sure you’re all familiar with those.

And everyone of us runs into them almost every day.

The good news is that these limiting beliefs can be easily transformed. I use EFT for this work, and it’s the fastest modality I’ve found.

The first step is to discover the limiting belief.

To hear the voice saying it. To look at at things your parents used to say, or are still saying. The circumstances of your childhood. The dreams you had – and what you learned abou them as kid. Some intense experiences that maybe made you take a vow to avoid any of that happening again.

Once you’re clear on a particular limiting belief, it’s possible to tap it out and transform it. It’s work I do regularly with my clients.

Here’s some tapping to get you started.

Even though I learned as kid how the world works and what I can do and what I cannot do, and this has kept me safe, I’m okay the way I am and I’m now open to the possibility that those old rules no longer work for me.

Even though it’s hard to go against those inner warnings and do things anyway, I’m okay the way I am, and I now give myself permission to grow beyond those childhood rules.

Even though I’m still letting those old safety rules influence my decisions, I’m okay the way I am, and I’m now willing to create new, better rules for my life.

Your turn:
Which are rules that you learned as a kid? And how to they limit you now as adult?

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PPS: I work with many people on transforming their limiting beliefs. If you’re interested in receiving support to shift those walls that hold you back, just click HERE, fill in the email and send it off. We’ll connect through skype to talk about how I can support you best.

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Happiness is a Choice

Happy

Happy

Really?

What if anger, resentment or frustration are running strong? How can I choose happiness instead?

The problem is that most of us never learned how to actually handle emotions or feelings. We were never taught what they really meant. And we were left alone in dealing with the raw feelings running through our hearts and bodies.

Instead, as kids we were just told to stop being angry or sad. And that only taught us to ignore our feelings, or to stuff them away and dissociate.

Choosing happiness includes feeling negative emotions and letting them run through the body and mind and then to let go of them.

Being aware of emotions is important. Anger has a message – something is not aligned with our heart, mind or plans. Sadness has a message – we lost a connection, possibly to our own heart. Fear has a message – we’re entering unknown territiory.

Once those emotions have delivered their message , it’s time to let them go. Continue reading

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Family Law #3 – Give and Take

give and take

Give and take

The third and final rule that governs a family system – and in fact, any systems that have humans in it – is the rule that giving and receiving have to be balanced. Yes, it’s a bit like energetic bookkeeping, except that it is okay to give just a little bit more than you receive.

Very poetically, there is one thing that can never be balanced: Parents giving birth. The gift of life is so huge, it can only be passed on to the next generation. And if you don’t have children, you can still pass it on by helping with other kids, or breathing life into your passion.

Everything else, however, has to be balanced.

Here’s the story of two of my friends to show the results of severe imbalance: They were both university students when they met and fell in love. He decided to get a job to support her until she got her exam. Then, that was the plan, she would support him with her job while he finished his studies. Except that the second part never happened. As soon as she got her exam, she left him, moved far away and founded a family with another man.

How could she do this to him? Continue reading

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Family Law #2 – Order

Family Order

Family Order

The second family law is about order. Everyone has their true place in a family. The mother cannot change places with the father. The youngest sibling cannot trade places with the oldest. They have different places in a family – and different “jobs”.

Just think about how a first child forges the way. It wrestles every inch of freedom from the parents. Often, it also carries some responsibility for the younger ones. This is a special place in a family, one that nobody else takes. Continue reading

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