This is a belief I have encountered several times. It’s very often held by people who have experienced insecurity. They do not trust in money, or the fact they could hang on to it. So they spend it the moment they have it, on anything.
Alternatively, in order to avoid the pain of losing all that money (possibly again), they avoid even making it. Often, they have barely enough to survive. But that’s still “better” than making money and then losing it.
It is a bit of a twisted logic, obviously, but that’s how many safety programs function.
If it doesn’t feel safe, avoid it! Continue reading
Money from a Tree?
This is another belief that will make your life harder than necessary. Let’s take a closer look at it:
We’ve all heard those phrases:
“Money doesn’t grow on trees.”
“You gotta work hard, son.”
And so on and so forth. I’m sure you’re familiar with them.
And yet… that’s just another bunch of those beliefs we learn as kids. the assumption that money will only come to those who work hard, long hours and burning lots of willpower – I believe it is especially prevalent in the US, but of course, it’s something people believe all around the world.
And it’s only as true as you make it.
This belief is especially damaging to entrepreneurs.
While many entrepreneurs start a business to get rich, there are also plenty who do it because for them, it means living a dream. I’m one of those, admittedly. Probably many writers, coaches, therapists and others start their own businesses because they love that line of work. Continue reading
This one is the logical, ruthless continuation of last month’s belief:
If money is bad, having a lot of money will make me a bad person.
We’ve all heard the phrase “money corrupts”.
And I freely admit it’s a belief I am familiar with. Because it’s so easy to look at the drug tsars and think that yes, they are doing it out of greed and because it’s so easy to make money with drugs.
And it’s highly criminal. All organized crime has to do with power and money. And that combination can be difficult – but is it really “just” the money? Or is it about the personality of people who think nothing of breaking society’s laws and being criminal?
And although I usually stay out of politics, I will say that the actions of the current US government and Congress is a glaring example of how deeply money can corrupt people indeed. We still aren’t seeing all of it, yet.
But no matter where you look, one thing is really clear:
If you believe that money will corrupt you as well – you’ll stay away from it. Continue reading
It almost seems as if those trees are hiding a secret. Something only they know. And maybe they do.
Trees survive winter, even though they can’t dress warmly or wrap blankets around them. They make it through most storms with minimal loss. And they endure frost.
How do they do that?
They tap deep into the ground, rooting themselves. That’s how they anchor against the storms. And deep down, it’s warm, even in winter. Maybe that’s where they grab some heat.
They know how to ground.
We can learn from them.
Money is Evil
All of us have lots and lots of beliefs about money. We soaked them right up as kids, from our parents, from school, from TV, from our friends. That’s because money is so central to our lives (much like family or friendships).
So we develop a lot of beliefs around it, and many are not exactly helpful.
One of the worst belief about money that you can have is this one:
Money is bad.
I think that’s a very old belief. It even existed in Roman times, when money became a major factor of the economy. And the reason behind this seems to be that money has a bad influence on people and/or causes bad things. It’s connected with:
And just look at how some rich people are behaving, and you’ll get some substantial evidence that money could really be bad.
I’ll go into some of those in detail in later posts. So let’s just run with the idea that money is bad for now. Continue reading
There are times when things are frozen. When they no longer move. Stagnant.
When we feel we’re stuck in place. Unable to make progress. Doomed to wait.
This is nature. It’s part of life.
And maybe, just like nature, it’s best to settle in. Wait. Quit fighting and focus on breathing, staying warm, taking good care of yourself.
Winter will pass. Things will move again, in their own good time.
After much thought, I’m reviving this blog, somewhat. Once a month, there will be a longish EFT post, among those occasional stream-of-consciousness inspirational thoughts with the pictures I take.
And this year those posts will be about money and all the many blocks around this topic. Because money is pretty much central to our lives, if we’re honest.
Money is behind having a home, having food, and enjoying life. And it is why we leave our homes and families to go to work. Or why we hustle to build our businesses. Or why we do things we don’t enjoy in exchange for money.
Even deeper, our relationship with money and our blocks and limiting beliefs about it determine how hard it is to bring it into our lives.
So once a month, I’m going to take a deep look at money here.
At the blocks we have about it. At the beliefs we carry about it. At the limits we set ourselves about it. At the family system dynamics that influence us. At all those things going on in the dark, deep zone of subconscious beliefs, and hidden no-nos.
Well, I’ve been thinking about the direction of this blog and how it can be useful for those of you who still find it and me. And there are more of you than I expected. I was letting you all down. That was a sobering thought. Continue reading
This picture makes me think of strength.
Because that tree needs a lot of strength to grow like that all on its own. No neighbors, no friends, just itself and the will to grow tall.
To be honest, I believe we should look for friends and support, and that going it all alone isn’t really a virtue. Now that tree didn’t really have a choice. But we do. Maybe it is a strength in humans to cooperate and build something together.
Just a thought… what do you think?
When you get up in the morning, you simply don’t know what will happen. And just as in the picture below, only certain aspects of the coming day will be easy to identify, while the rest is still hidden in the delicious fog of morning.
Ease into the day, let the fog lift gently and allow what is going to happen. Be open to expecting good things, solutions and – if possible – love. You can tap a little to open your heart and release any fear if necessary.
And your day will become beautiful.
Village in the morning light.
(This is a small village near where I grew up, in the mild morning light of late December. )
For my wonderful, hopeful visitors: My blog has moved to a new place.
While I still do EFT for many, many things, and still work with clients on all of their issues (unless it moves into the realm of therapy, which I am not allowed to do “long-distance”), I have found a new focus for my blogging.
As you probably know by now, I’m also a writer of fiction, and have published quite a few books. In fact, I’m working on several right now.
That means I’m intimately familiar with the life and woes of a writer. Which in turn means I can serve writers very well – in all matters of mindset, limiting beliefs and blocks.
Yet while my new blog focuses on the mindset of writers, you’ll find many interesting topics, even if you’re not a full-blooded writer, or even if you don’t care about writing at all. Because there is some overlap between writers and the rest of the society, after all.
So if you’re still interested in EFT and how to tap for stuff, and if you enjoyed my blogging, come on over to:
Writers’ Dream Coach
That’s where I “live” now, and yes, there is a weekly newsletter going out as well.
See you there!