Money Mindset – Rich Kids are Terrible

Spoiled rich kid

Spoiled Rich Kid

You probably heard of the “Affluenza Kid”.

This young man caused the death of four people in a drunk driving accident. The judge sent him to in-house therapy rather than jail, giving him a 10 year probation. The reason behind this was that the kid was raised in such a way by his rich parents that he never learned to be responsible for his actions, and that he was suffering from “Affluenza”.  And thus he needed therapy to learn how to be a responsible person. Except that he and his mother then fled to Mexico.

It made quite a stir, but it also illustrates a belief that many of us have: Rich people raise bad kids. Or spoiled kids. Entitled kids.

In fact, here in Germany, we have a saying about family businesses:

The founder builds it, the son stabilizes it, the grandson squanders it.

And maybe it is true that having seemingly unlimited amounts of money, and using it to “deal” with problems could create a belief that rules do not apply.

Of course, this doesn’t have to happen. I have listened to a millionaire talk about his kids, and how he teaches them to make their own decisions and live with the consequences. One of his daughters decided to go for an apprenticeship with a painter – and that was perfectly okay for him. She didn’t get any bonuses.

I’m sure his kids will turn out all right, because he put a lot of thought into raising them.

So maybe, this is just another limiting belief that could hold you back. Because I’m sure that if you have kids, you want them to become good, successful people, as well.

And being rich doesn’t mean you “have” to spoil them.

Here’s the tapping:

Even though it’s very clear that rich kids are spoiled rotten and turn into horrible people, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I’m now open to the possibility that maybe this happens because of the parents and not because of the money.

Even though I have learned that all rich kids are horrible, spoiled and entitled, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I’m now open to the possibility that this is not a law of nature.

Even though I am worried about my kids and want them to turn out well, and that’s possibly why I’ve refused to become rich on some level, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to become rich and still raise wonderful kids.

Your Turn:
What do you think about spoiled kids?
What does being rich do to families?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – what are you writing right now?
Would love to hear from you!

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Little Things for Joy

It’s quite possible to find a lot of joy in little things – and I encourage you to actively look for them.

That little burst of joy is a little inoculation against sadness, maybe even depression.

It works especially well because these little sparks of joy are not connected to anything. There’s no obligation about them, no conditions, no follow-up – just plain, simple joy.

This was my little thing of joy today, on my balcony.

Balcony flower joy

Balcony Flower Joy

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Money Mindset – Rich People Hurt the Environment

Cecil the Lion

Cecil, the Lion

A while ago, this happened:

An anchor chain on the 300-foot mega-yacht, […], has destroyed almost 14,000 sq.ft of reef […]

And of course, we all remember the story of Cecil, the Lion, even though that’s been a while, too. And sadly, there are many other stories like it.

Those are the big, singular events making the news. Most damage is done by living a typcial luxury life, however.

Rich people tend to drive big cars, to travel often and far by plane, possibly hunt big game, have huge homes and gardens in arid areas that need lots of water, play golf, and they have many luxury items and food imported to them. Simply because they can. Rich people are the driving force behind poaching, and extinctions, as well.

Now, this may be called the force of market, but underlying these actions is quite often a wish to show off and display one’s wealth. That mega-yacht mentioned above? The owner has a second, even bigger one.

And many ways of displaying wealth are actually hurting the environment, nature and our home, Earth.

Do you want to be a person who hurts the Earth because they are rich?

Most people would say no. And mentally that means saying no to being rich: I do not want to become such a wasteful person.

It’s a typical trap created by a limiting belief.

You see, we all waste things already. Rich people simply do that on a much bigger scale, if they don’t care. And many of them don’t care, which is a problem. But is that because they are rich, or is this because they are uneducated, unable to appreciate nature or because they are … idiots?

Maybe it’s not because they are rich. Maybe it’s the rich idiots who cause the most problems.

And you are not an idiot. You already like nature and want to protect it. Imagine how you can do even more when you have lots of money.

Because once again, it’s all about making decisions.

We can decide to be wasteful, buy ivory or rhino horn (and break laws while doing so), hunt a lion, or build a home in an environmentally sensitive area.

Or we can decide not to, and use our money to do good and support conservation efforts. We can help establish sanctuaries, lobby for nature, fund research or do any number of things that help the environment and this planet.

So it’s time to let go of that belief, and replace it with something else. Maybe you want to pledge some of your (future) money to help Earth. I donate to a German wildlife program, for example.

Let’s tap on this.

Even though rich people are reckless in their use of resources for their luxury life, and I will never want to be that kind of person, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to know that I can spend my money just the way I want it.

Even though I hate seeing so many rich people destroy places and hunt animals to extinction, I am totally okay the way I am, and I now remind myself that money is a tool and can be used for good.

Even though I hate how destructive many rich people are, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I now choose to become rich doing what I do and to use my money wisely.

Your Turn:
How do you feel about the environment?
What kind of things do rich people do that you hate?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – what are you writing right now?
Would love to hear from you!

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Power Sentence July 7th

 

Permission to be happy

Permission

 

To gain the full power of this sentence, read it out loud to yourself.

Be aware of any thoughts or feelings coming up.

If there are doubts, or resistance, get clear on them.

And then… tap them away.

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Power Sentence

Power Sentences are an awesome tool. Just read it the sentence in the picture out loud and see what happens.

Often, there is some resistance. And that is a good thing, because now you can discover what’s holding you back.

Feel the resistance.

It can manifest as a physical feeling in the body.
It can show up in a negative thought or belief.

All you have to do is read this aloud and be aware of what comes up.

And then tap it out with EFT.

"I allow my life to go well and make me happy."

Power Sentence
6-28-2017

And if you need help, let me know.

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Money Mindset – Rich People are Bad

Rich Person Smirk

That Smirk

For now, we have looked at personal beliefs about money as such. Today, we move into another level of beliefs – those about being rich. Because that’s what most of us dream of, right? We want financial independence, want to have enough money for a nice home, a garden, vacations, and maybe, just maybe work much less.

It’s such a dream: Sit at the beach or under palm trees, with a book or your smartphone in hand and just enjoy life. Sip a cocktail every now and then, feel the gentle, warm breeze on your skin, maybe chat with a friend… bliss.

And just to trigger that level and system of subconscious thoughts and beliefs about being financially independent, I’m going to put this sentence here:

I’m rich, rich, rich!

Read it out aloud to yourself and watch your belief system react. It can be fascinating. We all have lots and lots of inherited beliefs about rich people.

In my family, the underlying thought when talking about rich people was that they must be crooks, or they wouldn’t be rich. They must be lying about their taxes, have exploited others, be involved in shady dealings or otherwise have accumulated their wealth in a shady manner.

Because they were rich. That was enough to condemn them.

Rich people must be bad people.

I mean, just remember that pharma guy, who raised the price of a much needed medication by 5000% after buying the company that made it. Putting pressure on chronically ill people for personal gain. The picture of his self-satisfied smirk in front of Congress went around the world.

He’s the poster child for the ugly rich person.

Now, this ties in with the belief that money will make me a bad person, but it’s also even deeper: Rich people are crooks by definition. Bad people. Or they wouldn’t be rich.

This belief is very, very old, btw. Remember this?

“It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle, than for a rich person to enter the kingdom of God.”

Nobody wants to be that kind of a bad person.

And if you have that kind of belief, maybe learned it as a kid or in church, it’s very easy to avoid being that kind of a bad person:

Never become rich. 

And you instinctively avoid doing things that might promote your business, you shy away from success, and possibly sales. You avoid coaching and learning new things. You don’t go to meetings or networking events. You may not write that cracking description that will make your product sell instantly – because all of this might take you closer to being one of those bad, rich people.

And there goes that beach, the cocktail and the gentle breeze as perfect spot to relax.

Unless we eliminate that kind of belief.

It’ll be much easier to earn money – and even really good money – without that one holding you back.

And that’s where tapping is so useful.

Even though I learned that rich people must be crooks by definition, and I really avoid getting rich because I don’t want to be a crook, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I’m now ready to recognize that this is simply a belief.

Even though it’s even written in the bible that rich people are bad people, and I really want to avoid becoming a bad person, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I’m open to the possibility that this is simply a belief – and that I can be rich and a good person.

Even though there is so much hatred around rich people, including the belief that they must all be crooks, and I bought into that belief, I’m still totally okay, and I’m giving myself permission to let go of that belief, and to become financially independent now.

Your Turn:
Can you imagine being really, really rich?
How did that make you feel?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – what are you creating right now?
Would love to hear from you!

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Money Mindset – I’ll Lose it Anyway

All Gone

All Gone

This is a belief I have encountered several times. It’s very often held by people who have experienced insecurity. They do not trust in money, or the fact they could hang on to it. So they spend it the moment they have it, on anything.

Alternatively, in order to avoid the pain of losing all that money (possibly again), they avoid even making it. Often, they have barely enough to survive. But that’s still “better” than making money and then losing it.

It is a bit of a twisted logic, obviously, but that’s how many safety programs function.

If it doesn’t feel safe, avoid it!

I know this pain. As a teenager, I had a 100 Deutsche Mark bill, saved up from my allowance. I put it into my jeans pocket one morning, certain that it would be safe there. It felt better than putting it in among my parent’s money in my wallet. I planned to shop for clothes and books after school. I even checked on it a few times during school.

But … after school, the bill was gone. Vanished. I never told anyone. I still remember the shock of that discovery. The pain of that loss. The disappointment and the self-blame.

If you believe that money will hurt you in any way – your subconscious will steer you away from having it.

It’s that simple.

Which means we have to talk our subconscious (or at least the safety program) about this money belief or fear so we can change and shift it. The result should be that having money is no longer associated with the pain of losing it.

EFT to the rescue!

Even though the pain of losing my money was so great I never ever want to experience it again, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I’m open to the possibility that maybe money won’t vanish like that again.

Even though it’s so much safer to have no money to begin with, rather than losing it all and feeling the pain of that, I’m totally okay the way I am, and I  now allow that I don’t really *have* to lose any money that I own.

Even though I learned that it’s not safe to have money, because it’ll bring pain, and that’s why I spend it as soon as I get it, I’m totally okay, and I’m open to the possibility that maybe I can unlearn that kind of safety program.

Your Turn:
Have you lost considerable amounts of money?
How did that make you feel?
What happened while you were tapping?
And finally – what are you writing right now?
Would love to hear from you!

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Money Mindset – Money is Hard to Earn

Money from a Tree?

Money from a Tree?

This is another belief that will make your life harder than necessary. Let’s take a closer look at it:

We’ve all heard those phrases:
“Money doesn’t grow on trees.”
“You gotta work hard, son.”

And so on and so forth. I’m sure you’re familiar with them.

And yet… that’s just another bunch of those beliefs we learn as kids. the assumption that money will only come to those who work hard, long hours and burning lots of willpower – I believe it is especially prevalent in the US, but of course, it’s something people believe all around the world.

And it’s only as true as you make it.

This belief is especially damaging to entrepreneurs.

While many entrepreneurs start a business to get rich, there are also plenty who do it because for them, it means living a dream. I’m one of those, admittedly. Probably many writers, coaches, therapists and others start their own businesses because they love that line of work. Continue reading

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Money Mindset – Money Corrupts

Money Corrupts

Money Corrupts

This one is the logical, ruthless continuation of last month’s belief:

If money is bad, having a lot of money will make me a bad person.

We’ve all heard the phrase “money corrupts”.

And I freely admit it’s a belief I am familiar with. Because it’s so easy to look at the drug tsars and think that yes, they are doing it out of greed and because it’s so easy to make money with drugs.

And it’s highly criminal. All organized crime has to do with power and money. And that combination can be difficult – but is it really “just” the money? Or is it about the personality of people who think nothing of breaking society’s laws and being criminal?

And although I usually stay out of politics, I will say that the actions of the current US government and Congress is a glaring example of how deeply money can corrupt people indeed. We still aren’t seeing all of it, yet.

But no matter where you look, one thing is really clear:

If you believe that money will corrupt you as well – you’ll stay away from it. Continue reading

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Hidden Secrets

Hidden Secrets

Hidden Secrets

It almost seems as if those trees are hiding a secret. Something only they know. And maybe they do.

Trees survive winter, even though they can’t dress warmly or wrap blankets around them. They make it through most storms with minimal loss. And they endure frost.

How do they do that?

They tap deep into the ground, rooting themselves. That’s how they anchor against the storms. And deep down, it’s warm, even in winter. Maybe that’s where they grab some heat.

They know how to ground.

We can learn from them.

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